Happy New You

Yesterday I had a appointment with the breast specialist, the surgeon who performed the mastectomy and removed the cancer, I didn’t have any of the usual dread leading up to it. When we were wrapping up we hugged and she said Merry Christmas and Happy New You, chuckled, looked at me and said Happy NewContinue reading “Happy New You”

Keto with friends

Chemo sucks, it really, really just plain sucks. My oncologist said that I needed to lose weight in order to reduce my chances of cancer coming back. I certainly don’t want to have to deal with cancer again, and I really don’t want to go through chemo again, it sucks. Doing everything in my powerContinue reading “Keto with friends”

Cancer and togetherness

Parenting during cancer is a challenge like no other. A lot of things take a back seat for a lot of reasons but children cannot. There were a few things that fell through the cracks caused by cancer, our daughters always came first. We like to play games. Board games, video games, card games, youContinue reading “Cancer and togetherness”

Seeing the beauty

I don’t spend a lot of time in front of the mirror when I do look at myself it is usually with a very critical eye. This new wrinkle, that new gray hair, this bit of extra weight. I read an article about treating the image in the mirror like someone you love instead ofContinue reading “Seeing the beauty”

When doctors disagree

Sometimes it feels like you are just along for the ride when you are navigating the follow up after dealing with a critical illness. It isn’t like the runaway train or tornado of the illness, not at all. It is just like you are a passenger along for the ride, sometimes there is disagreement amongContinue reading “When doctors disagree”

Cancer as a positive

Positivity can be a very powerful force. Just as negativity can suck the life out of any situation, positivity can breath energy and life to any situation. There are negatives with a cancer diagnosis, some are predictable, some are like a sucker punch to the gut. Fighting negativity is worth every bit of energy putContinue reading “Cancer as a positive”

Short term disability is NOT a vacation

Having a critical illness is terrible. It is no fun at all. Even in the darkest of times there are some pretty good moments that you cling to in order to make it through the rest of the darkness. Overall, being too ill to work isn’t cool and being on short term disability isn’t aContinue reading “Short term disability is NOT a vacation”

Disagreeing with doctors

People disagree, it happens all the time. What about when it really matters? What about when it is about you and you aren’t a medical professional but you have a very strong opinion about what should happen and why? I didn’t want cancer. Didn’t want any part of it at all. My opinion and feelingsContinue reading “Disagreeing with doctors”

All these bills

One thing you can count on with a critical illness is a sudden influx of postal mail. You will get bills, statements and explanation of benefits. Some of the letters will be very very thick and when you go through them it will be eye opening. My oldest daughter was born with shoulder dystocia whenContinue reading “All these bills”

Waiting, waiting, waiting

I am not known for my patience, this is a virtue I do not possess. I have been known to hit send on an important email and call the recipient in that moment to see if they got it and what they thought about it. I have been known to send a package to someoneContinue reading “Waiting, waiting, waiting”