Positivity can be a very powerful force. Just as negativity can suck the life out of any situation, positivity can breath energy and life to any situation. There are negatives with a cancer diagnosis, some are predictable, some are like a sucker punch to the gut. Fighting negativity is worth every bit of energy putContinue reading “Cancer as a positive”
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Short term disability is NOT a vacation
Having a critical illness is terrible. It is no fun at all. Even in the darkest of times there are some pretty good moments that you cling to in order to make it through the rest of the darkness. Overall, being too ill to work isn’t cool and being on short term disability isn’t aContinue reading “Short term disability is NOT a vacation”
Disagreeing with doctors
People disagree, it happens all the time. What about when it really matters? What about when it is about you and you aren’t a medical professional but you have a very strong opinion about what should happen and why? I didn’t want cancer. Didn’t want any part of it at all. My opinion and feelingsContinue reading “Disagreeing with doctors”
All these bills
One thing you can count on with a critical illness is a sudden influx of postal mail. You will get bills, statements and explanation of benefits. Some of the letters will be very very thick and when you go through them it will be eye opening. My oldest daughter was born with shoulder dystocia whenContinue reading “All these bills”
Waiting, waiting, waiting
I am not known for my patience, this is a virtue I do not possess. I have been known to hit send on an important email and call the recipient in that moment to see if they got it and what they thought about it. I have been known to send a package to someoneContinue reading “Waiting, waiting, waiting”
Blank Page Nerves
I have never liked to write. I have always preferred to be face to face when sharing information, not in writing. I was the kid in class given a 1000 word assignment and 950 words would be alright, the last 50 would be the word ‘very’ everywhere it could pass. Someone suggested years and yearsContinue reading “Blank Page Nerves”
Milestones
There are distinct periods in life, the change is often marked by a specific event, a milestone. My first six distinct periods are measured by which school I was in, the next 9 are about our kids and moves and jobs. We figured instead of measuring distinction in our lives based on our experiences, itContinue reading “Milestones”
Biopsy: husband view
Friday afternoon of Labor Day weekend we knew that Tuesday was going to be a biopsy. A breast biopsy. A biopsy is a procedure to take pieces of a tumor to determine if it is cancerous or not. That was a three day weekend. The longest and fastest three day weekend ever. Tuesday morning came.Continue reading “Biopsy: husband view”
Kindness matters
There are a lot of trips to the doctor to get to a cancer diagnosis, there are exponentially more after a cancer diagnosis. A lot seems like an understatement. My first trip to the Breast and GYN cancer center at Woman’s Hospital was by far the worst. I guess the reason for that is theContinue reading “Kindness matters”
Clearing your personal cache
Sometimes I get stuck with a thought. Really, really stuck. I never consider myself stuck if it is a good thought, only when they are not so good am I stuck. I really only know one way to get un-stuck, or get out of my own head, or really just to clear my cache, youContinue reading “Clearing your personal cache”
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